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[holytoastr]

Last night I finally broke the news to my parents that I didn't want a
church wedding. My mom sounded extremely disappointed, but she didn't yell.
She has been surprisingly mellow ever since my grandparents died.

We discussed wedding stuff and agreed that I need to plan a NY trip this
summer to check out locations. She mentioned a couple places that her
clients own and a place a family friend owns, all of whom I could get
discounts from. And my grandpa's friend has offered to help with planning at
a discount. (She is a wedding planner.) And almost all of my mom's clients
want to do my invitations and whatnot at cost for me.

I'm feeling a lot better about my budget now.

We did have one little disagreement though. Over tradition. My mom wants me
to do all sorts of silly traditional things. I have tried to explain to her
that my SPACE! wedding represents the future, not the past, and tradition is
all about the past.

She was talking about all the ceremonies I had to have because it's
tradition but I think I'm doing a good job pointing out how silly
traditions can be. For example, the garter belt ceremony.

Me: Mom, do you really want to see you son-in-law reaching his hands up your
daughter's dress?
Mom: *pause* You could wear it on your ankle...
Me: His hands up my dress in front of our whole family!
Mom: ...You could wear it on your wrist!
Me: I don't want the garter belt ceremony.
Mom: *Changes the subject*

I win! But who came up with that garter belt ceremony anyway? It seems
pretty dumb to me. And embarrassing!

Comments

[greenwitch.livejournal.com]

It IS pretty stupid. The wedding I was at last week did have the garter belt/bouquet throwing, but the one I was at previous to that was also a traditional wedding and did not do it. So even if you WERE going to have a traditional wedding, it's not mandatory for crying out loud.

[jizai.livejournal.com]

Geh, when they use their teeth to remove the garter belt,... I feel a wave of shame and embarassment flood over me. X_x

[holytoastr.livejournal.com]

How can people do that in front of their mothers? In front of their grandmothers?

[holytoastr.livejournal.com]

The only thing mandatory for a wedding is the marriage license. After that, it's all icing.