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Jan. 1st, 2012 11:36 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
holytoastrYesterday a box from my mother arrived. Inside was a purse of insufficient pockets. Not too long after that, she called to make sure it arrived. I confirmed it did and thanked her for the gift.
That should have been the end of it right?
No, she had to ask if I liked it. I'm terrible at lying so I squeezed out an, "It's nice," which unfortunately was not the answer she was looking for.
My mother then went on to tell me that it was a coach bag and was very expensive and that everyone told her I needed to have one now that I am a professional woman. (Side note: What was I before my new job? A garbage collector?)
I asked her who "everyone" was, because anyone who knows me knows I really don't care at all about name brand status items.All her female friends and relatives. Who don't know me at all. Great group to take gift giving advice from.
The whole conversation was very awkward. She was annoyed that I wasn't glowing with gratitude over the overpriced bag and I was annoyed that she expected me to act that way over something I didn't want in the first place. I thanked her for the gift. A thank you is all that is expected in gift giving. I couldn't believe she had the gall to try to guilt me into liking something I didn't actually like. By the end of the call, I was so annoyed I was considering putting the stupid thing up on ebay.
I don't know what I'll do with it. Maybe I'll still sell it. I have a perfectly good no name professional bag WITH LOTS OF POCKETS that I use maybe twice a year. It has served me well for the last 4 years. Looks almost brand new, I use it so infrequently. And it's in such a simple style, I don't need to worry about it being unfashionable. This coach bag will probably be yesterday's fashion by next year. And then I'm stuck with a crappy bag with insufficient pockets that no one is going to want. Probably better to unload it now.
It constantly surprises me how little my mother actually knows about me. I think I'm fairly vocal about my interests. Purses is not one of them. I did my part and thanked her for the gift even though I didn't want it. That should have been sufficient.
AND why is she spending so much money on things I don't need/want anyway? She's constantly broke. I know for a fact that ben and I are significantly better off financially than she is. She goes without heat for days because they need to wait for the next check to come in to pay for oil. And she buys me a ridiculously overpriced bag? Why does she do that? It's infuriating. She's broke all the time BECAUSE she wastes her money on stupid stuff like this.
That should have been the end of it right?
No, she had to ask if I liked it. I'm terrible at lying so I squeezed out an, "It's nice," which unfortunately was not the answer she was looking for.
My mother then went on to tell me that it was a coach bag and was very expensive and that everyone told her I needed to have one now that I am a professional woman. (Side note: What was I before my new job? A garbage collector?)
I asked her who "everyone" was, because anyone who knows me knows I really don't care at all about name brand status items.All her female friends and relatives. Who don't know me at all. Great group to take gift giving advice from.
The whole conversation was very awkward. She was annoyed that I wasn't glowing with gratitude over the overpriced bag and I was annoyed that she expected me to act that way over something I didn't want in the first place. I thanked her for the gift. A thank you is all that is expected in gift giving. I couldn't believe she had the gall to try to guilt me into liking something I didn't actually like. By the end of the call, I was so annoyed I was considering putting the stupid thing up on ebay.
I don't know what I'll do with it. Maybe I'll still sell it. I have a perfectly good no name professional bag WITH LOTS OF POCKETS that I use maybe twice a year. It has served me well for the last 4 years. Looks almost brand new, I use it so infrequently. And it's in such a simple style, I don't need to worry about it being unfashionable. This coach bag will probably be yesterday's fashion by next year. And then I'm stuck with a crappy bag with insufficient pockets that no one is going to want. Probably better to unload it now.
It constantly surprises me how little my mother actually knows about me. I think I'm fairly vocal about my interests. Purses is not one of them. I did my part and thanked her for the gift even though I didn't want it. That should have been sufficient.
AND why is she spending so much money on things I don't need/want anyway? She's constantly broke. I know for a fact that ben and I are significantly better off financially than she is. She goes without heat for days because they need to wait for the next check to come in to pay for oil. And she buys me a ridiculously overpriced bag? Why does she do that? It's infuriating. She's broke all the time BECAUSE she wastes her money on stupid stuff like this.
